the eyes of billy mars
Posted on 11. Feb, 2009 by Victor in amazing!, best of v-hold, bruno
Way back in the late nineties, I was definitely the guy who liked to have fun. Gay fun, if you know what I mean and I know you do. Things have obviously changed and the time spent in bars and their darkened backrooms is a distant memory. I remember on Sunday afternoon meeting this guy named Billy. He was new in town and we flirted a bit, had some fun and then became what I refer to as “bar friends”. We’d see each other out from time to time, play a little catch up, share a drink and then be on our way.
There went a long period of time when I didn’t see Billy out much at all. It would never occur to me until the next time I’d see him at a bar. “Holy shit, dude. It’s been forever!” and we’d catch up again, introduce our new boyfriends and chat a bit. During one of those long stints of not seeing each other my friend Pat mentioned that he had met a guy named Billy. We compared notes and sure enough it was the same guy. Then Pat reveals to me something kind of strange and wonderful about this “bar-friend”. It turns out that Billy is some sort of psychic. I was like, “No way!” and Pat responded, “Yes, he really is – he has these premonitions and he’s usually right.” That led to some school girl giggling between us about Billy being able to read minds and how great that must be. Pat had joked and said the next time we see him we should have him pick our drinks while we sent him the message telepathically.
Turns out the next time I would see Billy was in the summer of 2006. It’s the Dore Alley Street fair and Tony and I were really living it up because we had finished up our adoption paperwork and knew that these next few street fairs may be our last for a while if we were chosen to adopt. We are hanging out in the front section of The Powerhouse and our pal Carlton is working the bar and feeding us drinks and shots. Suddenly, I see Billy come in the front entrance. He eventually moves towards us and we chat and laugh and talk about the fair. Then I mention to him that Tony and I finished our adoption paperwork and are hoping to adopt soon. Billy looks me in the eyes, pauses for a second and then says, “You will have two kids.” very matter-of-factly. I said, “Well, we hope that will happen eventually!” and Billy responded, “It will. Don’t worry.” We then got off the subject and finished up chatting and he eventually moved off to the back of the bar.
As you could imagine, when I got home I excitedly told Tony about the whole back story that led up to this moment. We both chose to take it with a grain of salt but it did add to our positive energy towards eventually adopting. Summer turns into fall and then that November 22nd, Bruno comes home with us to stay.
The next time I see Billy is in the fall of 2008 at Pottery Barn in the Castro. Tony, Bruno and I are doing some pre-holiday shopping and I run into Billy. Again, it’s the “hey, how ya doin’” catch up conversation. He gets to meet Bruno, who is now walking and talking. Then its happy holidays and we’re off again.
A few months ago Tony and I had started to talk seriously about the whole “shit or get off the pot” feeling we had with adopting a second kid. We had filled out half of the paperwork in a year’s time. Bruno was just about to change from daycare to pre-school. Money was getting tight. We were not necessarily giving up – but we needed to be more serious. I know I was starting to think that we could be running out of time. Bruno was potty trained, to go through diapers all over again – I don’t know…
A month ago for some strange reason I started going over the whole Billy story in my head and I remember “you know, Billy said we’re going to have two kids.” Sarcastically I said to myself, “well, that ain’t gonna happen.”
Two days later, late Friday night. Tony is sorting through his email on the kitchen computer and I am in the living room playing video games. “VICTOR, COME IN HERE!” he shouts as he points to his email message list:
Date: Jan 5, 2009
To: Tony and Victor
Subject: Bruno has a sister!
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19 Responses to “the eyes of billy mars”
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The Father of Five
11. Feb, 2009
Two is not too bad.. It’s when “they” out number “you”….
Come on Victor… Only four more to go!!! (snicker)..
Seriously though… Very exciting… I wish you all the best in your impending decision(s), and potential adoption process!
Keep us readers up to speed, I will be watching for future updates!
Victor
11. Feb, 2009
a girl! yipes… i was set on two boys. i know it will be just fine. and i did say at one point i wanted 5 kids… so who knows?
Bacchus
11. Feb, 2009
Wow… congratulations?!! I can hear all those leather daddies now.. squealing that they get buy pink dresses! Can’t wait to hear the updates.
moby
11. Feb, 2009
So does this mean you are going to adopt is biological sister or something else? You left me hanging…..
Victor
12. Feb, 2009
she has the same mother as Bruno and the social worker says that it’s the same father, too… though I want to see some proof of that because we have the dad’s name with Bruno’s paperwork. But if so, what a great thing for them – two blood related sibs getting to grow up together!
Homer
12. Feb, 2009
Ohmigosh, that little girl will get the best outfits!
Phil
16. Feb, 2009
Wow! That’s great! I’ve been watching your blog for some time and it’s been great to see your family growing. Our son is about Bruno’s age and it was great to get placed again. We were like you – thinking we’d have two boys. Now we do, and his sister
The Father of Five above is right… watch out when they outnumber you! Congratulations and we wish you the best – keep us updated!
Victor
17. Feb, 2009
Thanks! We are hoping she can stop making the babies now. Not sure if we can handle three!
Nick
17. Feb, 2009
Yay! Congrats guys! Just so you know, though….having a girl is like having 4 boys, so really, you WILL have 5 kids! lol John and I are going to have to take you guys up on a babysitting offer so you can experience what it’s like to have a girl!
SubtleKnife
17. Feb, 2009
Cool! Does that mean it’s official now? I wouldn’t want to tempt the gods by congratulating you too soon.
I’ll keep my fingers crossed.
Victor
17. Feb, 2009
Not quite official yet. This Friday is the disclosure meeting, so pending any bad news we should be good to go!
G.G.
17. Feb, 2009
WOW – I haven’t been checking your sites enough. I’m so excited for you three! Congratulations. Super wonderful! I’ll be sending ‘best wishes’ this Friday. Just take Big Brother Bruno with you and they will want his little sister to be raised by you!
Love and Hugs – kisses to Bruno
G.G.
Mike
19. Feb, 2009
Came across you on Twitter and just started reading your blog, Bruno is adorable as are the two of you and congrats on the prospect of adopting his sister. It’s good for you two, Bruno AND her.
Best of luck to all of you.
Victor
19. Feb, 2009
Thanks! I need to check your site out, too.
David Mould
19. Feb, 2009
Great news. Good luck with everything. We have a 3 year old adopted daughter. I have ended up being the hair stylist, which surprised her Papa and me both. We figured he would be the hair guy, but I’m just better at it. Hair is a new challenge. I would be happy to share tips with you. After 9 months I’m pretty good. It helps that she is a very patient little girl and we have various tricks of the trade to keep her still for the long hair braiding sessions.
Victor
19. Feb, 2009
We are a little scared about the hair-do’s. Fortunately there are a lot a hair shops that specialize in black hair. I think we are going to start with the asymmetrical shroom.
SubtleKnife
19. Feb, 2009
Almost Friday… I’m excited!
bigassbelle
20. Feb, 2009
Oh my stars, I can’t even imagine anything more fabulous than growing up with two gay daddies. What a lucky, lucky little girl. Yay for all of you.
Will
20. Feb, 2009
Victor–no new post since the 11th–has anything new happened with this–is it confirmed now? What great news. You two are incredible.